Dover Castle and The White Cliffs of Dover

All year, Saturdays have been a bust.  Our oldest has school on Saturdays.  He has been out for about two weeks and we have not been wasting time.  Last week, we spent the weekend at Alton Towers. This week, we took a day trip to Dover.  

Dover is located about 2.5 hours away from us without traffic.  We got up early, packed a picnic and headed out about 7:30.  We were there by the time Dover Castle opened its doors at 10am.

English Heritage

Dover Castle is an English Heritage site.  English Heritage runs the site just as they run Stonehenge and thousands of sites around England. You do not need to be a member as they do sell admission tickets to the general public.  However, membership is well worth it as it gives you access to all the sites for a year as well as sites in Scotland, a quarterly magazine with upcoming events and free parking at all the sites.  We purchased our family pass in May when we visited Stonehenge. If you visit 3-4 sites, you break even.  Visit more and the membership more than pays for itself. 

Dover Castle

Dover Castle overlooks the English Channel/Strait of Dover.  The castle was built in the year 1180 by King Henry II, the first in a long line of Platagenet Kings. He was also the ruler over a large area of France known as the Angevin Empire. He was the father of King John, the signer of the Magna Carta.  His conflict with the Church led to the murder of his one time friend, Thomas Becket, the Archbishop of Canterbury. There is an introductory presentation at the castle that explains the Angevine Empire and the role of Henry and his children from its height to its decline in the 13th century. 

The castle structure is original.  The contents are not.  How do I know?  The sure way to test this is to have your children try to sit on the furniture.  If it is the real deal, they will not be allowed to do so.  Therefore, it is a great place for kids to explore.  They can't break anything valuable.

Dover Castle has been an important fortification since the 12th century and even before.  One of the oldest structures on the castle grounds is a Roman lighthouse built around 43 AD.  Some of the more recent structures were added in the late 1800's and were used in World War I.  In addition to being a medieval castle, the grounds also contain secret tunnels, and underground hospital and signaling station used by the Royal Navy in World War I. The Strait of Dover contains hundreds of shipwrecks from as early as the Bronze Age. 

      

It is a great day out for families.  There are picnic tables all over the grounds and plenty of space for children to run around.  The seagulls will join you at your picnic.  There is a cafe and a restaurant, but if the weather is nice, a picnic is great and doesn't take up much time. 

It is a very windy location so it is best to be prepared for any weather. While it didn't rain while we were there, storm clouds were on the horizon.  Being so close to the sea and in the UK, rain is always likely.

We spent about 4 hours at Dover Castle.  We did not see it all, but with our membership, we can come back to explore the rest at a later date.  We headed off to the White Cliffs for the rest of the afternoon.

The White Cliffs of Dover

Just a short drive from Dover Castle are the famous White Cliffs of Dover.  The Cliffs are managed by the National Trust, another membership driven organization that uses proceeds to preserve their various sites. We are not members yet, but the only charge here is 3.50 to park your car (free for members). You park near the visitor center where you will find a cafe and shop.  

The White Cliffs take their name from their white chalk composition.  We saw many examples of this chalk put to good use as people wrote their names in chalk on wooden benches and fencing. The white chalk composition contains black flint streaks. 

There are two hiking trails.  One that takes you to the viewpoint and another that takes you to the lighthouse.  We were going to go towards the lighthouse, but we wandered off the trail, close to the cliff's edge.  It was a steep climb down and up.  By the time we got back on the trail it was getting late.  So we stopped at various viewpoints - mostly to catch our breath.  Probably wouldn't do that again after finding three crosses as a memorial to a group that didn't make it. 

Say "wind"!

The parts of the trail do allow for wheelchair access, but for the most part it is a gravel trail. You can picnic here as well as take a nice nap. The only downside that we did not realize until we looked in the mirror was that the wind was so intense that we all had a bad case of windburn by the time we came home.  The salty air will also make you tired, making for a nice deep sleep.

From the clifftop, you can see France, a mere 22 miles away, on the horizon. You can see the ferry docks and the lines of cars and trucks waiting to embark or disembark the ferry.  Our plan is to take the ferry back from France when we visit Normandy so that we can see the cliffs from the sea. 

With a roadside stop for dinner, we made it home by 8pm in time to shower and pass out from the days exhaustion.  It was a lovely day out that we highly recommend. 

Alton Towers Resort: A review

Its July 4th weekend - a weekend that means nothing to anyone in the UK unless you consider that the United States was the original Brexit. 

I have one kid out of school and another finishing up later this week. Rather than take a nice long weekend break, we took a short break and visited Alton Towers over the weekend. My young thrill seeker heard about Alton Towers from friends and had been wanting to visit.  My oldest had to face his roller coaster fears and what a better place to do it than here.

Before I proceed, a disclaimer: I am from Florida.  My views of any theme park are made through the rose colored glasses of nearly forty Disney resort experiences and many Universal Orlando resort experiences. 

Objects in this map may appear closer than they actually are.

The Park

Galactica, the VR coaster, in action. 

I think this may be the future of rollercoasters.

The UK has a ton of theme parks.  Alton Towers is said to be the #1 theme park in England.  Being that it is the only UK theme park we have visited so far, I can't say whether that is debatable or not.

In terms of size, Alton Towers is larger than any one of the Disney World parks. I know this because we only spent about 4 hours there the first day and I managed to beat my usual Disney World step count. The lands are spread out from the castle.  The theme park was built around the castle that belonged to the Earl of Shrewsbury which you can also visit.

She's the queen of the world.  She rode those swings 5 times!

Alton Towers is by far a roller coaster park.  They have an area for little ones showcasing several BBC children's programs like CBeebies, Postman Pat, the Octonauts and Tree Fu Tom. But, the reason people come is for the thrills.  The coasters are intense.  Oblivion takes you up, and releases you fast and hard into a tunnel. Galactica, the newest coaster, is a virtual reality coaster. It suspend you face down. You can opt to wear the glasses or not. The Rita launches you like a pinball as it races through the track.  Then, there is the Smiler which has given Alton Towers nothing to smile about.  We opted out of that one. There is also the Nemesis, Thirteen and the Spinball Wizard and some other rides and experiences including a Haunted Mansion meets Buzz Lightyear's Ranger Spin where you shoot laser guns at ghosts. 

My youngest loved all of the rides. She is the risk taker in the family.  My oldest will likely be a great insurance salesman - very risk averse. Since the day he was born, he has had a need for safety and security. 

A group of riders about to descend into Oblivion.

I remember that a tight swaddle was the only way to calm him down on his first day on Earth while my youngest managed to undo her swaddle every time because she needed to feel free. My oldest judges rides by how safe and secure he will be.  Therefore, if you ask him, he will say that Galactica was his favorite ride because your entire body is locked down.

We paid for a two day ticket because it was only 7.5 GBP more than a one day and the kids were itching to go to the water park.  So, we spent a few hours at the park and finished exploring the following day before returning home.

Splash Landing Hotel and Waterpark

Alton Towers has three resort hotels. We opted for Splash Landings because the water park was connected to the hotel.  The hotel had a Disney Caribbean Beach Resort vibe to it, but looked more dated.

The room was small, typical of most British hotels, with a double bed and two bunk beds for the kids.  There was no air conditioning, but with the temperatures being mid 40s at night and 50-60 in the day, the powerful fan provided was enough.  Each hotel had a gift/snack shop, a bar, two restaurants and entertainment.  The entertainment was most definitely for young children.  There was not much to do for my older ones.

The Waterpark was not huge.  It had pools, slides, and options to torment unsuspecting holiday makers by shooting water cannons at them.  Unlike the parks that I am accustomed to, this one did not have lounge chairs. They seemed to make it very uncomfortable for you unless you were in the water.  So we put our stuff away and we adults made our way to Volcano springs which is a hot tub like pool.  We situated ourselves there and told the kids that this is where we would be.  They went off on their water adventure while we relaxed. 

It was crowded because the waterpark allows non-resort guests to visit. But, despite the crowds, I did not hear about any issue with queuing like I do in the US water parks.  People here, even children, do not jump the queue and if they do their parents step in.  I felt like a heavy prune when I emerged from the hot tub after 2.5 hours and I was exhausted.  I could have easily skipped dinner for sleep that evening.  My youngest was another story.  Getting her out of the water was a challenge. 

Jackpot at 8am!

Gaming

Most resorts have a game room and this one was no different. I did not see too many video games, but more games of chance - the claw, the coin pusher (throw a coin in and it pushes other coins out for you to collect), wheel spinning and lucky numbers.  My youngest had a field day in here.  One morning after breakfast we had some time to kill and she went in to play the Lucky Numbers game.  She hit the 500 ticket jackpot the first time and then she hit the 250 tickets jackpot the second time.  The machine ran out of tickets and we had to ask an attendant to refill the machine.  This is where gambling addiction starts.

The Rollercoaster Restaurant: Lunch has arrived.

Dining

I am not a fan of theme park food.  There are some restaurants that provide excellent dining, but they are usually outside of the park. However, the kids were interested in eating at the new Roller Coaster themed restaurant. By the time, we arrived at the restaurant we were all in need of a roller coaster break.  While the food is nothing to write home about, it was an interesting concept that made me consider the future of the restaurant service industry. 

You order your meal via iPad.  It is sent to the kitchen electronically.  Your meal is delivered to your table in a circular chafing dish via a series of roller coaster tracks. When it arrives, you unharness your meal and serve it on the plates provided on the circular docking station.  There is no need for waiters. You pay for your meal as you exit. 

The resort has five restaurants and several bars and snack shacks.  We dined at two locations.  One was a Flambo's, a buffet style place. The other was the Emperor's Grill, a steakhouse.  The steakhouse was excellent, but I could have passed on the buffet.

Coaster Selfie

Things to know before you go

The Alton Towers website is not as user friendly as I would have liked.  I booked our stay via another website.  Waterpark and theme park tickets may or may not be included - it depends on the package. I did not book a package so I figured I had to purchase tickets separately.  Tickets to the theme park were not a problem, but when I tried to buy waterpark tickets ahead of time, they were all sold out.  If this happens to you, don't worry. The online tickets are for the general public.  If you are staying at the resort, you can buy tickets at the reception.  A buffet breakfast is included in your stay. 

While the park is large meter-wise, there are not as many rides.  Therefore, its hours of operation are much shorter, even in the summer months.  I checked their calendar.  The typical hours are 10am - 6pm. The same applies to the waterpark, which I found disappointing since it would have been nice for the kids to be able to spend the evening swimming.

A few other things to keep in mind:

• Staying at the resort gives you access to early ride times at 9am, but the rides they open do not change from day to day. The Oblivion, the Enterprise and the Spinball Wizard are the three open rides between 9-10am. We saw people arriving between 9:30-10 to get in line for the coasters that were opening at 10am.
• This is Europe (for now anyway). People smoke oblivious to how annoying it is to non-smokers. While the park emphasizes that smoking is only allowed in designated areas, people choose to poison you everywhere. 
• The equivalent of a fast-pass here is a fast-track.  I can see how queues can get extremely long during school holidays.  However, we visited on a Saturday and Sunday and did not wait longer than 10 minutes to ride anything.  The fast-track is expensive and not worth it. 

Battle Galleons: "It will be fun," she said.

• One day at the park is more than enough.  Unless you want a mini break, there is no need to spend more than a day here with older children.  But, a weekend experience is best for families with younger children. There is not much for older children to do here in the evening other than mini golf.
• It may be July, but it was about 50 F every morning. It's also England, so it rains everyday.  Bring a rain jacket.  It was great not to be stuck inside waiting for a rain shower to pass.  It also helps you stay dry while on the river rapids or the water gun battles on the pirate ships.

One thing is for certain: it will be a fun day out with the kids.

The Brexit Vote

Tomorrow, the UK is voting to leave or stay in the European Union.  This has been on the table since last summer when the Prime Minister agreed to hold a referendum about EU membership.  I bet he wishes he had never agreed to that when he was trying to get re-elected.  It is quite the gamble. Polls are showing that there is as much support for leaving as there is for staying.  

It is interesting to see how the different sides tend to align themselves very much like our own country.  The "Vote Leave" folks tends to be made up of older voters and, as in our own country, most are a a xenophobic group, if not down right racist.  They feel that immigrants are taking over their country and want to go back to "whiter" days.  The "Vote Stay" group is made up of progressives. Most are under 40 and have never known a UK that was not part of the EU. They grew up with diversity. 

This has been the talk of the town I live in. I have been stopped at the town center several times by both sides. Good thing that as soon as they hear my accent and I confirm that I can't vote in their referendum, they end their sales pitch. But I do enjoy listening to their take on what is happening or will happen.  Because, you know.  We all know what happens when you speculate - Much A Do About Nothing.

Battle lines have been drawn across the country, neighbors against neighbors. I can drive down a road and see the flags or signs to vote one way or another. At times, it has gotten nasty.  Both sides have been using fear tactics - fear of what could happen if they stay or if they leave.  Things took a tragic turn last week when with the murder of a 42 year old pro-stay Labour Party MP by a pro-leave radical. Both sides suspended campaigning.

Recently, I had a pleasant conversation with my stylist about the differences and similarities between our countries.  He is a young twenty something who told me he is voting to stay in the EU.  He made a very good point about how this was more about the burden of immigration on their system of welfare.  We have similar issues with our own benefit system in the US, but not on as large a scale since our welfare system is limited.  

Did you know that if you are a refugee or immigrant, you are given free housing, free healthcare, and welfare?  He said people can stay on these benefits for a long time and everyone is eligible.  This is why we also get to use the NHS for healthcare - it is open to everyone.  In the US, immigrants do not automatically get benefits until they become permanent residents. And even then, it is need based. They have to show that they are working on gainful employment in order to get it or must prove that they are disabled and unable to work.  Here, it is automatic. Take the ease of benefits and the strong pound sterling and its no wonder people are flocking to cross the English Channel.

Take the NHS. The few times I have sought care through the NHS I have noticed that 1) they have very good health care and 2) their wait times are very long. I was told that if I wanted to have my shoulder surgery via NHS, I may have to wait 2-3 years to be seen and get that scheduled.  Don't know if that is accurate, but I do notice that to get the kind of care I am accustomed to, I have to go private pay.  

Earlier this week, I met with a retiree who keeps Tigger while we are on holiday.  She asked me my thoughts and I told her I couldn't vote. She told me that she just doesn't know.  She said she feels it is her son's generation who should be required to vote while her generation abstains because this will affect his generation more than hers.  

I have spoken to other older adults here who tell me that people are just coming over here to take advantage of their welfare system.  Sound familiar? It makes you think that if that is the problem why not reform the system rather than vote to leave?

I think they will vote to stay just like the Scots voted to stay within the UK. Human beings do not like the unknown and leaving is a big unknown. It is exciting to be here during such an important vote. One thing is certain: it is going to be a nail biter.

All seriousness aside, take a look at John Oliver's take on Brexit.  He can weigh in.  He's British. Enjoy.

The Royal Ascot

Every country has a high society event.  The United Kingdom, with its Royal family, has many high society events, but none is more fascinating than the Royal Ascot.

The Royal Ascot is the Gold Cup of horse racing.  The Queen, an avid horse lover, holds court at the event with the Duke of Edinburgh every year for each of its five days of racing.  She is joined by different members of the Royal family each day.

The Royal Enclosure provided the best and least crowded view. You could watch from the stands or walk down to the track.

There are several enclosures available to the general public.  The Royal enclosure is open only to members (likely those with titles) and diplomatic missions who sponsor their employees in the enclosure. So it was that we received instructions to submit an application for the Royal enclosure this past April for one of the premier social events of the year.

We were not sure how it worked, but we put our application in the proverbial top hat for the chance to attend. I'm pretty sure security checks were run for everyone who applied and we had the good fortune to be invited to buy tickets.

Tickets to the Royal Enclosure are not cheap.  Adults are 150£ each.  Children are a mere 20£.  Parking is 30£.  These prices do not include the attire required to adhere to the strict dress code. 

You may have seen the pictures in the news from the first few days of the event.  The crazy hats/fascinators and outrageous dresses - that was NOT in the Royal Enclosure.  For one, fascinators were not allowed in the Royal Enclosure.

Hat Swap!

For the ladies and girls, dresses had to be at or below the knee.  Any straps had to be one inch in diameter.  If wearing a trouser suit, the material for both pieces must match.  All ladies must wear hats with a minimum 4" diameter base.  Girls can wear fascinators or head pieces. Heels were optional.

Men were required to wear morning dress - top hat and tails. Within the Royal Enclosure, the top hats had to be kept on at all times. Boys could opt to wear a suit and their hat was optional.

Optional or not, this is one of those once in a lifetime opportunities.  We decided to go all out. 

Hat, check! I went ahead and bought one. I plan to wear it to every event that I can justify wearing it. I have never been a hat girl, but the head band that ensured it would not fly off my head at any time. I loved it. I even wore it at work after the event. 

Dress for me and for my girl, check.  Morning dress for my dear husband and son, check.  Sensible shoes...that was the biggest challenge.  Everything I read, including tips from Pippa Middleton, praised sensible shoes since you are on your feet all day.  But, heels tend to be best with a dress.  In the end, the weather took that decision out of my hands. 

Royal Ascot commenced on what had to be the rainiest day and week of the year.  The rain started on the previous Sunday and continued off and on, but mostly on, for days.  By the time the first day arrived, the ground was very soft and flooded in some areas of the car park which led to some fantastic pictures.  The forecast changed multiple times over the week, but our chosen day of attendance, Saturday, gave us the best odds for no rain.

We arrived on a cloudy overcast day early.  We tried to caravan in since tailgating is allowed.  It pays to be in the Royal Enclosure as we were a short walk to the racecourse. 

It was cold rather than rainy.  I think we had a few sprinkles of misty rain and it was over.  But the soft ground was not over.  I stepped out of our car with my heels and began to sink into the mud.  That made the shoe decision real easy.  I pulled out my back up flats and didn't look back.

Tailgating at Ascot is an art.  Forget the tailgating you are accustomed to at a football game! This was high class tailgating.  People brought tents - the kind that you would see at an outdoor wedding.  Under the tents, tables with white table cloths popped up. Tables were topped with fine dinnerware, silverware, cloth napkins, candelabras, champagne flutes and buckets of champagne on ice. Some folks had their tents professionally catered.  We ate, we drank, we laughed and took lots of pictures for about three hours before we started making our way to the racecourse.

The Queen's horse drawn carriage procession begins every day at 2pm in the parade ring. This is a separate area opposite the actual racecourse.  We managed to get there just as the procession was getting underway and managed to snap a few shots of Her Majesty and the Duke of Edinburgh, and the Prince of Wales and Duchess of Cornwall.  In case you are wondering, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge made an appearance on Day 2 and Prince Harry arrived on the first day.

As the procession concludes, members of the Royal family make their way to their box.  Spectators in the Royal enclosure have a chance to see the Royal family inside the building.  Levels 3 and 4 offer the best view, but make your way up the escalator early as it is packed. Once the Royal family is settled, racing begins.

The races are spaced about 30-45 minutes apart.  There are no assigned seats as you are expected to move about.  People place their bets on the next race and collect their winnings in between races. If you ever want to see a British man, decked out in a top hat and tails, lose all composure upon their horse winning a race, come over to the Royal Ascot. If you want to see the Queen all smiles as her horse wins the race, this is the place to be.

There are many bars, cafes and restaurants set up throughout the enclosure - for a price.  As I have said before, this event is far from reasonably priced.  Top chefs in Britain head the kitchens in these restaurants.  This is why so many people opt for the fancy tailgate.  The cheapest meal other than a cup of coffee and a piece of cake was 40£ per person for afternoon tea with other plates going for upwards of 500£. Wine and Bollinger Champagne was sold by the bottle.

This was our first ever horse race. The races combined with all the glamour made the day go by very quickly. When the races ended, we could not believe that it was nearly 18:00.  But the party didn't end there.  Following the races, there was a sing along in one of the other enclosures and then the place turns into a club for several hours.  Many people continued tailgating at their cars afterwards.

Do you remember being a child on Christmas morning?  All the excitement, anticipation, not knowing what gift to open first? That is what it was like attending the Royal Ascot in the Royal Enclosure.  As for the morning after?  It felt like 26 December too.

Welcome to your first Quaker Meeting, dear.

Every time my youngest finishes a historical lesson at school, they stage a performance with skits and songs depicting what they learned. These performances all take part during a Quaker meeting. 

I still have not figured all of it out. My observation is that each meeting begins and ends in complete silence. It seems to be a moment to reflect before and after worship. After the worship portion is complete you quietly shake the hands of the person sitting to either side of you (not everyone in the pew in front and behind you as I am accustomed). 

Quaker meetings can take many forms to include music meetings or celebration meetings like the one we attended today about Victorian England. It's strange but also the most fun. I go to these when I can because the kids receive their merit marks and certificates they have earned. Today my daughter received one for her writing and art. Unlike schools in America, these are earned and not just given to every student so I think she was very proud of her achievement. 

Today, her dad accompanied me to the celebration meeting. He thought that it was just a show and tell play about what they learned. So, when everyone automatically went silent, he found it odd. I mean, when else do children as young as 3 and up to 12 go silent on purpose for a few minutes without you having to tell them to be quiet? In response to his puzzlement,  I turned to him and said "Welcome to your first Quaker meeting."

Finding a loose brick

This past week I was unable to turn on the news or scroll through social media without mention of the war of words between Pope Francis and Donald Trump.

I won't rehash the debacle since the media has done so to death. But I do feel compelled to comment on some aspects about this wall business and immigration in general that are, quite frankly, an embarrassment to this child of immigrants.

The Wall around the Vatican

I have seen many Trump supporters calling then Pope hypocritical because Vatican City's border is a wall. It's pretty easy to make that statement without considering the history and the present state of Vatican City. 

Those walls have been in place since the 9th century and were built to protect the Pope against Barbarian invasions which were all too common in the Middle Ages. 

The modern Vatican retains these walls as vestiges of its history as do many cities in the ancient world. Europe is littered with remnants of wall from a time when they too had to defend against invaders.

There is a big difference between people trying to invade a country and people trying to emigrate to a country in search of a better life.

Vatican City today is home to about 500 people, most of them, employees of the Varican and diplomats. The Vatican employs more than 500 people. Many live in Rome.  The gates close in the evening, but the Vatican is a government complex and I don't know too many government buildings anywhere that leave their doors open all night.  

The point is that the Vatican is essentially an open border with Rome.  You do not need to get your passport stamped to enter or exit.  They can do that because it is that small.  You cannot compare the smallest country on earth to the second largest country on earth, the United States.  

The United States has never had a wall because our country was founded during the age of Enlightenment and "enlightened" people do not have a need for walls when establishing a free society.

Since our founding, America has been attacked by enemies both foreign (War of 1812, WWII, 9/11) and domestic (Civil War).  Yet, we never felt the need to build a wall around our country. 

Until now...

A Nation of Immigrants

Within the Statue of Liberty, there is a plaque with a poem by Emma Lazarus.  You can read the whole poem here, but the part that applies to the current immigration situation is this: 

"Give me your tired, your poor,

Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,

The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.

Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me,

I lift my lamp beside the golden door!"

America has always been a country of immigrants with the exception of the Native American people. Everyone I know - family, friends, politicians, and celebrities - are here because America opened its doors to my family and theirs.  Our co-existence makes it a messy, complicated melting pot at times, but it also is the one thing that sets us aside from other nations.  It gives us our "flavor" if you will.

Now we have a Presidential candidates proposing that we build a wall along our borders to prevent illegal immigration into the Untied States.  

And you have Americans who are falling for this rhetoric and denying why they are all in the United States in the first place.

Pot, meet Kettle

My family emigrated to the United States from Cuba in the late 60's, early 70's and beyond. My family emigrated legally to the US.  So has every Cuban living in the US.  But this is misleading. You see, it is impossible for any Cuban to emigrate to the US illegally.  

Cuban immigrants were pawns in the Cold War between the US and Cuba.  By instituting a Cold War policy giving Cubans special refugee status, Cubans would have no problem leaving the island. The US could then make the point to Cuba that "If your government is so great, why are the Cuban people flocking to the US?"

I have nothing against this.  I am an American because of it.  But if you take an honest look, if it were not for that policy, all Cubans would have had to get back in line with everyone else.  Without this policy, my family would have either emigrated much later, not at all or they would have found a away to make it over illegally, putting them in the same boat as every most central Americans or Syrians entering countries illegally.

I agree that we cannot have open borders in this day and age, and, I am all for the immigration laws of centuries past where people were examined and processed before being allowed to leave Ellis Island or local Miami airports for that matter.  

What I do not agree with is the hateful tone that is being taken to address this issue.  

Would you do it? 

The decision to leave one's homeland when faced with war and political/economic oppression is likely one of the most difficult decisions any human being can make. Think about it.  Why would anyone choose to leave the only home they know to face the unknown? I've done it three times with support and help from our employer and it has still been a challenge every single time.  I can only imagine what it is like when you have nothing but a suitcase full of hope. Also, while our reasons for moving abroad pale in comparison to those who risk their lives for freedom, I can say that leaving family and friends behind is hard for anyone who calls themselves human.  We choose to move abroad knowing full well that we can always come home again.  What if you left knowing that it is very likely you will never go back? 

Today, many Cubans Americans seem to have forgotten this part of their family history. They seem to have forgotten what it was like to be that desperate, to leave everything they owned behind because as part of their exit, they had to relinquish all their assets to the Cuban government.  I am sure that as they left for the airport, the sense of anxiety about the unknown and the thought of the family and friends they were leaving behind must have been overwhelming.  Again, who would do this if they had the choice to stay in their homeland? 

In spite of all this, Cuban immigrants had it easy compared to the wave of undocumented immigrants we have now.  The majority arrived by plane. They were processed at airports and were sent on their way to meet up with family in New York, New Jersey, Texas, Florida and elsewhere to start their new lives.  

Today's undocumented immigrants travel thousands of miles on foot or are smuggled in trucks across borders.  Many suffer unspeakable violence trying to make their way to the US. They leave poverty stricken countries that make our unemployment rate during the recession look great.  They are leaving countries where gang and drug violence makes it impossible for anyone to have a normal life. In the case of Syria, they are also leaving a war torn country where staying is kin to signing a death warrant.

It makes me sad to see that my people, who emigrated for similar reasons are throwing these groups under a bus because they seem to have the mentality that they are better than these immigrant groups or they make them out to be "not like us" all because of that special refugee status they enjoyed. It is dangerous when any people believe they are better than another.  Ask any Holocaust survivor how that plays out.

A Way Forward

This is a moral and ethical dilemma. There are many facets to be considered.  Tough, hateful talk on securing the border is the easy way to deal with it.  It is messy to see the human dimension.  It will make your heart ache when and if you do.  I used to view illegal immigration like many Republicans. Then, as a therapist, I met many undocumented immigrants. I got to know them and at the end of the day, they all want the same things all of us want: to raise our families in a safe environment and to provide for their basic needs.  These people changed me.  It is hard to go back to having a one dimensional view of immigration when you are exposed to another dimension.  

If you feel so strongly about securing our borders, do not contribute to the problem by spewing hateful rhetoric.  You can express your views without spewing hate. Our immigration policies leave much to be desired and you can't fault those who are already here for that. I liken this to the legalization of marijuana.  Its still illegal in the United States.  They just chose to look the other way.  The US chose to look the other way while millions of people crossed the border. Deporting millions of people, most of whom are hard working individuals who pay income tax and have no criminal history, is going to end up costing us more than developing an enforceable immigration policy and moving forward.  

Walls, as any Berliner from 1961 to 1989 can attest, divide people.  Breaking down walls comes down to finding the loose brick or loosening a brick. This is not about building a wall, but about tearing down the one you have put up around yourself.  

Top Ten Things I Love the United Kingdom

It's been 6 months since we arrived in the UK.  It feels much longer than that due to the learning curve, even if it was smaller this time around.  I thought I would pick 10 things I love about our new host country.  Some are quirks and others are little things that make me smile.

10. Queues

Not that I care to join a queue if I don't have to, but queues here are an art form.  And it isn't just getting line for a turn or for tickets.  Many roads in the country are one lane each way, occasionally opening up to two lanes.  While some people will get into the second line to skip ahead before the road becomes one lane again, this is more the exception than the rule.  If someone tries to skip in line, it is usually an unaware tourist or foreigners.

9. Pub Names and Ordering Scheme

You have to wonder where they come up with their pub names.  Popular names tend to include animals like the Red Lion, the White Horse, the Blackbird or Ye Olde Reindeer and others include the word an animal, person or location like King and Castle or Hundred Acres while others you have to wonder about like the Pickled Ploughman or the Hung, Drawn and Quartered near Tower Hill in London.  There is one in our area called the Crown and Tuns, more affectionately known as Pudding Face.  Why?  Because their specialty is pies. Not just sweet pies, mind you, but savory pies.  And they are huge!

While I am on the topic of pubs, I have developed a fondness for the pub system of ordering your food and drinks.  While not all pubs are the same in food quality and ambiance, many share a similar scheme when ordering food.  You walk in and find your own table which is usually equipped with menus.  You look over the menu and note your table number which is usually etched into the table.  You then proceed to the bar to place your order and pay.  They bring your meal to the table when ready and when you are done, you leave.  I love not having to wait for a check. And if you decide you want dessert, you repeat the process.

8. TV commercials

You think the Super Bowl has funny ads?  You have not seen those on British telly.  Sometimes we find ourselves enjoying the commercials more than the show. Take this commercial from Haribo:

Another meeting that could have been an email. 

Their sense of humor is well displayed in their ads. Their shows are pretty good too.

7. Cursing

Cursing is so common here that even my kids were taken aback when they noticed how much their classmates cursed.  Just take a look at this fine list of British slang. Now bugger on to the next item on the list.

6. Cadbury Creme Eggs and Clotted Creme Fudge

Like they do in Poland, it may be 2 things, but they are one category.

It's the small things, folks.

Yes, the box went from six to five and they changed their recipe.  But having come from a country that did not sell Cadbury eggs and being from a country where they only seem to appear at Easter, I don't notice care about these changes.  The fact that I can buy these nuggets of sticky gooey creme every day of the year is delightful.

Then, there is clotted creme fudge.  These little morsels of sweetness are basically dulce de leche in a small package. The liquid variety is what they put on scones and depending on the brand, it can also be sweet. Or not.

My waistline does not share this opinion on either item.

5. Road Rules

I find drivers here to be friendly, most often giving you the right of away even when you don’t have it.  Some of the things I found daunting upon arriving now make sense to me.  Like roundabouts.  I find them to be a brilliant way to keep traffic moving without the need for lights that back up traffic.

4. The People

The British are self-deprecating to a fault.  They apologize as if on automatic even when they are not at fault.  They are friendly and seem to have an innate ability for small talk which this introvert enjoys since I do not need to make much effort to join in conversations with them.  Their wit and sarcasm makes it a pleasure to have a conversation with them.

They may come off as being unemotional, but its more like being reserved and in control of their emotions. “Keep Calm and Carry On” is their national motto.

As in most societies, they do not all fit the mold. We have noticed that while they are very friendly towards Americans, they can be rotten to each other. But that is not my problem.

3. Geography

There are green hills and valleys, stunning sunsets, cliffs, extinct volcanoes, beaches, mountains and lakes.  Sometimes you even find a blue Police Box dotting the landscape.  It is so breathtakingly beautiful - when it isn't raining.

Pink Sunset on the Motorway

2. Location, Location, Location

Our location in the center of England places us about 2-3 hours from the east (Wales), west and southern coast (Dorset) of England.  Scotland to the north is about a 4-5 hours drive/train ride or a quick flight. London is at 80 miles away makes for a worthwhile day trip.

If you want to head into continental Europe, you can fly fairly cheap on low cost carriers, drive via the Eurotunnel auto train, or take a ferry with your vehicle across the channel.  Don't want to deal with flying or driving?  Hop on the Eurostar train and you will be in Paris in 2 hours. Locally, there are train stations every 5-10 miles and you can catch a train very easily arriving at the station about 5-10 minutes prior to boarding.

......and the #1 reason I love this country....

1. The History

Everywhere you turn there is something of a historical context to see, do or hear. There is royal history, literary history, scientific history, art and musical history.  Sure, other places offer similar, but British history is the precursor to our American history which is laughably short.  There is so much history packed within the city of London that you could spend several weeks there alone and not see it all. Once you get out of London, you see how vast and old their history is.  Stonehenge and Hadrian's Wall pre-date William the Conqueror by hundreds and thousands of years. And most of it has survived and is well preserved. Hence why, the best way to see this country, is to live here.

Stay tuned for the Top 10 Things I Hate about the UK!